Guys Just Wanna Have Fun

I am on the executive board of a club at our school, and happen to be the only female out of the seven members, all of whom are Muslim brothers. We had our first meeting a couple weeks ago, and as I sat there watching the guys handshake and high-five and fist pump each other (or whatever it is guys do), I couldn't help but feel a slight tinge of jealousy.

It seems that guys are much better at being friends to each other than girls are, and I only wish that I had such a close-knit relationship with other girls like the guys in front of me all appeared to have.

I honestly just feel like girls come with a lot of baggage. It is in the innate nature of a woman to judge the other woman, whether it is by comparing outfits, attitudes, or when it comes right down to it: appearances. Think of weddings, parties, and grand events. Don't they sometimes just feel like a huge judge-fest of who is wearing the more expensive jewelery, the trendier shoe, the fancier clothing, or the better makeup? I have seriously experienced a girl in my extended family CRY AT A WEDDING because she wanted to wear the one tika (an Indian jewelery headpiece) that I was wearing. She was 22 years old. Do you think a guy would ever do the same thing because he didn't have the better tie on?

Now think of guys at those same events, and try to bat off that feeling that not only do they just [likely] want to be fed, they simply want to have a good time. I am sure that the majority of guys out there do not eye each others' outfits to see who looks better. But the majority of girls do. And they can also be the Queens of Snarky Remarks.

I have seen guys at my university in big groups, but the most number of girls that I will see together are just a pair of two or three. The same two girls will eat together, study together, pray together, and do everything else together, but you will never see a third (or fourth) with them. There's nothing wrong with that -- in fact, kudos to them for being good friends to each other, but it is just rare to see a larger group of girls get along as well and for as long as their male counterparts.

Take this odd example: I was once eating lunch in the cafeteria at my university when two guys asked me if they could sit on the spare seats at the same table. I obliged, continued eating my own food while they sat beside me doing their own stuff, and then I left.

Now replace the same scenario with two hijabi girls asking the same thing just recently. I glanced up at them from my half-eaten pizza and Finance textbook, said sure, and continued eating when all of a sudden my concentration was rudely disrupted by the two girls VIOLENTLY SCREECHING the TABLE APART so that they would be sitting "separate" from me. GIANT. QUESTION. MARK.

I am not here to say that all women are like this, nor offend any who may not agree with me, but rather to point out that it is from my own personal experience that I've witnessed women as being generally unfriendlier and more closed-off to other women than men are to other men.